kindof a lot going on in this commit, unintentionally:
* Need the lua context set to be moved into the config crate
otherwise configs cannot be parsed by the server and we end
up with the default configs
* Make the server use smol for async io
* Drop the use of the daemonize crate, which I had forked anyway.
Just inline our own tighter daemonize module
* Improve daemon spawning synchronization, however, it still needs
work for windows to avoid blocking forever where we don't do
daemonizing.
